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    Thank you Esther! I appreciate your words of encouragement so much! I feel like such a failure sometimes with my kids and all of their struggles and that I haven't done enough to help each of them. We haven't tried any adaptive technology at all. He doesn't see the need. I did get a subscription to Learning Ally for him and he hardly ever uses it. *sigh* We've tried to do typing, but he doesn't really use it much. His spelling (hello dyslexia) is atrocious! I do let him dictate all of his history to me so that he can just answer and not have to deal with the rest.

    I have had such poor luck with finding a good examiner. The first was ok, but not great on giving a dx and most of the suggestions were dumb - sit near the front of the class, etc. The second tester several years later was also not great. She was dumbfounded by the fact that he could read given his VERY low phonemic awareness (3%). I told her that I thought he was dyslexic. She said, "no he reads too well to be dyslexic". Even though she admitted that she thinks he reads purely by sight! *sigh* I finally took him to a dyslexia specialist (who had recommended this examiner and was equally frustrated by her). She did dx him with dyslexia, but its not "official" as she is not a psychologist. So I'm back to square one in trying to find someone that will really help him. Its been a frustrating journey between the testing and also his denial of the issues. He just doesn't want any help at all. I appreciate how hard he is working to get things done and just want him to apply his energy where it is best used, kwim?
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    What age is your son, Leslie?

    Johns first examiner was NOT helpful. She spoke to me about him while he was in the room....and said things like "will never read or write well...." So, his little boy heart took that and just gave up.

    There is a wonderful book...available on audio, too, called The Dyslexia Empowerment Plan, by an author who is male and dyslexic. I read it, John read it, and there was a noticeable shift in his acceptance, which was why I'm sure he was finally open to hear the examiner's words for him. This is the website for the author, Ben Foss. https://benfoss.com/category/dyslexi...t-plan/page/2/

    He has a Ted talk and a blog and so much encouragement and practical advice. Hope this helps you reach your son.
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    I got the initial forms this morning to begin the process.

    I have been sitting with him more doing school. As a 9th grader he had been pretty independent. The simple act of copying vocabulary words onto paper has been very laborious. I feel terrible because when he was young I had him doing copy work for LA! Poor kid, who knew! He is eager to be tested to get validation. He has always preferred doing things his own way and in his head. I just thought all along he hated LA so he was struggling, now I see why...probably. The ability to test well really made it hard to think something is wrong. Same thing with my oldest. He got a perfect score on state testing for LA but struggles big time with the process of writing certain types of papers.

    Also, we all have sensitivity to fluorescent lighting. It makes it very hard to concentrate and the lighting is uncomfortable for us. Anyone deal with this too? Maybe I should start another thread.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Esther-Alabama View Post
    What age is your son, Leslie?

    Johns first examiner was NOT helpful. She spoke to me about him while he was in the room....and said things like "will never read or write well...." So, his little boy heart took that and just gave up.

    There is a wonderful book...available on audio, too, called The Dyslexia Empowerment Plan, by an author who is male and dyslexic. I read it, John read it, and there was a noticeable shift in his acceptance, which was why I'm sure he was finally open to hear the examiner's words for him. This is the website for the author, Ben Foss. https://benfoss.com/category/dyslexi...t-plan/page/2/

    He has a Ted talk and a blog and so much encouragement and practical advice. Hope this helps you reach your son.
    Esther, he is 14. Thank you for the information, advice and encouragement. I'm so thankful that you are willing to guide me over and over. This has taken a back burner due to complicated health issues with some of my other kids. I need to do more for him though. Even if he doesn't want help, we need to figure this out.

    Cindy - Its great that your son wants to know what is going on. Knowledge is power. You might ask Kendra about sensitivities to lighting as she has some experience with different vision issues (Irlen I think).

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    Esther - did you find the parts that were negative on homeschooling to be a problem? Just seeing that in some of the reviews on amazon. Curious as to your take on this. Thanks!
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    Esther - did you find the parts that were negative on homeschooling to be a problem? Just seeing that in some of the reviews on amazon. Curious as to your take on this. Thanks!

    Leslie, I bought the book almost the week it came out. I forgot how I found out about it, but I read it and enjoyed it snd shared it with John. We discussed the authors views on homeschooling and agreed it was just something we would ignore and agree to disagree. Perhaps you could share only portions of the book with him... I still believe the best part of the book/approach is to explain how the dyslexic person can overcome weaknesses through use of adaptive-assistive technology. Ben Foss spent his life in public schools, struggled for most of it but overcame and wants to help kids avoid the struggle and get schools to use adaptive equipment sooner. He is a huge advocate for kids in schools and I applaud that. But, I did find his approach to be helpful to us overall.

    Read it first or just watch the TED talk first and see what you think. If your son is hating homeschooling...probably not what you want to share with him. But we had made the homeschooling high school decision already and John agreed with it.
    Esther wife to Steve, Mom to John Henry-16yrs, Paul-12.5yrs, Sam-11yrs and Lizzy-7yrs
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